By Jasmine
Because soft life for women isn’t exclusive. It’s available to any woman willing to choose herself.
I see the glances and the side comments.
The hesitation some women show when they compliment me,
It’s like there’s a pinch of something underneath.
“You always look so rested.”
“Wow… I wish I had that kind of time.”
“Must be nice.”
Sometimes, it’s not even what they say.
It’s how they say it.
But here’s what I want you to know:
I don’t live this way to be envied.
I live this way because I believe I deserve softness.
And so do you.
This life I’ve created, where I care for myself and protect my peace,
It was chosen by me.
Chosen in the quiet moments when I stopped performing struggle.
Chosen in the early mornings before anyone else was awake.
And, I don’t think there’s anything noble about being exhausted.
I don’t think beauty, rest, and stillness are luxuries.
I believe they are essential.
More importantly, I believe they are accessible.
No, not everyone can live exactly how I do.
But I didn’t get here by luck.
I got here by giving myself permission.
By letting go of the pressure to prove something.
And I want more women to know this feeling.
This balance.
This grace.
This calm.
It’s not just for a lucky few.
It’s for you, too.
You don’t have to envy me.
You can be inspired.
Let my life be a window, not a wall.
Let it remind you that you can create ease.
You can say no.
It’s okay to rest.
Delegating is allowed.
And you don’t have to earn your softness through exhaustion.
So the next time you see me, matching set, coffee in hand.
Lashes done on a Wednesday.
Don’t roll your eyes.
Look closer.
This isn’t perfection.
It’s permission.
And you’re allowed to choose it too.